1 A long-forgotten incident remains vivid in my memory. Years ago, I was walking with an aunt on the road. An electric bike passed by, and its headlight scraped hard against her arm. She stumbled a few steps, and I quickly steadied her. The bike wobbled violently and then stopped abruptly ahead. A pair of feet in fashionable high heels touched the ground. The rider turned her head and yelled loudly, "Are you blind? How do you walk? You're blocking the way." We were clearly on the innermost part of the sidewalk. Moreover, the bike came from behind, and there were no other vehicles competing for the lane. I was furious and ready to argue with her. The aunt held me back, shook her head, and whispered not to stoop to her level. Then she looked up and smiled, saying, "Sorry, miss." The girl showed no shame and said sternly, "You're smart to back off. If I had time, I'd have a word with you today!" With that, the bike sped off. I felt indignant, thinking the aunt was too meek. We were clearly in the right, yet we had to swallow this injustice. Besides, even if the girl was in a bad mood, she shouldn't take it out on others! The aunt, seeing my puzzled expression, said, "You're still young. She wasn't just in a bad mood and taking it out on someone. Look at her unpleasant face—she's clearly not a kind-hearted person. Why bother with such people and make ourselves unhappy?" I was even more confused. Setting aside my displeasure, objectively speaking, the girl was actually very pretty, with delicate features. But on reflection, although she was pretty, when she spoke, her mouth slanted and her eyes were fierce, likely from long-term irritability. Indeed, she wasn't so good-looking. Being good-looking is different from being pretty; it's not about external refinement but an inner experience that makes others comfortable. Of course, I realized this later. A person's face cannot deceive; it's something no expensive cosmetics can hide. A person's daily emotions, which precede and are deeper than any disguise, are most profoundly revealed on the face. As the saying goes, look at Meng Jiao's "spring breeze elated, horse hoof swift; in one day see all Chang'an's flowers," and observe Daiyu's "three hundred sixty days a year, wind, frost, snow, and rain oppress." 2 Children are usually sensitive to whether a person is good-looking; they are natural judges. This is also the first vague yet accurate stage in our growth for judging emotions. During my school days, I led a group to teach in a rural area. Those partners met the children for the first time. Just after self-introductions, there was a clear difference in popularity. One male classmate, with nothing special, was especially loved by the children and quickly became one of them. Even the usually quiet children became more lively. Meanwhile, some handsome and beautiful companions, known for their bad temper, though talented in singing and dancing, were still neglected. Curious, I privately asked a few children why they particularly liked that male classmate. They tilted their heads, thought for a while, and surprisingly answered, "Because he looks good." I was amazed at their careful choice of words. That male classmate was ordinary-looking, not handsome, but he had a good temperament and was popular among peers. He was always open-minded and optimistic. So what attracted the children was his long-accumulated "aura." Children's judgment is based on the simple, good-looking faces around them. These young faces, without long-term negative emotions, are as pure and beautiful as blank paper. So they can always spot, among adults, someone who is "good-looking" like themselves. If you observe carefully, you'll find that many people with unkind hearts and long-term suffering, even if they put on a smiling face for children, children will instinctively hide, even if the child is usually outgoing. As we grow up, there is a stage where we waver between simplicity and complexity, and we become uncertain about good and evil, right and wrong. We temporarily lose the accurate judgment of children. We overlook "good-looking" and focus on "pretty." 3 But when a person gains some life experience, they gradually return to childhood and can easily judge others. The other's past emotions become clear at a glance. At this stage, we become the most excellent and precise "judging by appearance" people. There is a well-known vivid case about "judging by appearance." Once, President Lincoln interviewed a new employee but didn't hire him. When asked why, he said, "I don't like his face!" The questioner didn't understand and asked, "Is it his fault that he was born ugly?" Lincoln replied, "A person's face before forty is determined by parents, but after forty, it's determined by oneself. A person must be responsible for their face after forty." In my youth, when I was at an ambiguous age, I read this story and had the same doubt. As a president, he should be more rational than ordinary people; how could he be so "willful"? But as I grew older and gained experience, I gradually understood the meaning of "judging by appearance." It's not baseless personal preference. Emotion psychology mentions that emotions have an expressive function, and facial expressions are one manifestation. Emotions are revealed through the face. Similarly, by observing others' faces, we can infer their momentary and lifelong emotions. This is why so many great figures have left famous sayings about "judging by appearance." Schiller once said, "A cheerful heart makes a cheerful face." Similarly, Balzac said, "The soul reflects life, and the face reflects the soul." The thing people can least deceive themselves about is their emotions. Emotions always openly leave the heart and climb onto the face. Those with inner ferocity and long-term negative emotions have no calm or beauty in their features. Temporary intense emotions can be suppressed and overcome with self-control, making them less fierce. But over time, the emotional imprint on the face gradually and subtly appears. So, many fortune-tellers who read faces are not just "charlatans." There aren't so many baseless guesses that happen to be correct. They have seen many people and are well-versed in various emotions. Your momentary and lifelong emotions are written on your face; they can read them and guess correctly. That's all. It's not profound, but it's not simple either. 4 Although heaven only throws the dice once for a person's appearance, deciding at birth whether you are pretty, you can still decide whether to be a good-looking person in the life ahead. Once, there was a popular article about Wendi Deng. The main point was that Wendi Deng was no longer good-looking. The photos of her presented a microcosm of her past emotions. Behind the years, Wendi Deng was still pretty among her peers, but she was no longer good-looking. Those photos touch your heart because the contrast is so obvious. Her face and brows revealed unvarnished resentment, coldness, and unhappiness, full of ferocity and a win-at-all-costs attitude. No cosmetics could hide it. Any discerning eye could see that she had been unhappy for years, filled with uncontrollable negative emotions. In social interactions, many people unconsciously choose those with bright faces. That clarity and beauty can instantly light up others' emotions. Those with inner beauty and kindness, even when facing life's competitions and pressures, do not become ferocious or gloomy. Pressure should never be a reason for a person to become unattractive. Even with strangers, we tend to choose those who are "good-looking." For example, when buying breakfast, the shop owner with a cheerful face can make your day better and your appetite better. For example, when taking a taxi, the driver whose eyes show love for life is less likely to have road rage and will tell you interesting stories about his family. Apart from inner jealousy, staying away from those who make you feel uncomfortable and unattractive is the safest strategy. Some people you can't afford to provoke, so you avoid them. Not challenging those surrounded by long-term negative emotions is self-care. A person who cannot make themselves good-looking is irresponsible and incompetent. First, they cannot properly vent their inner emotions or perform emotional transformation—that's incompetence. Second, they cannot improve the situation causing negative emotions or cultivate a positive mindset from the root—that's also incompetence. Even those naturally beautiful cannot rely on their looks forever. If they don't cultivate themselves and become excellent emotional managers, their God-given features will still become distorted. Being good-looking is far better than being pretty but ferocious. Only good-looking people can have a truly beautiful and honest life. When you can create openness for yourself, your heart welcomes spring. When you are so good-looking, you have already won over yourself. 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