I am a maverick cat, who started working after graduation in 2008, and it has been seven years since. Seven years ago, I came across a saying: "The two hours after work determine the person you will become." For various reasons, I decided to give it a try. Over these seven years, I have been an employee at an international PR company during the day, and a persistent writer after work, having written four books, including "When Your Talent Can't Yet Support Your Dream" and "Don't Let the Future You Hate the Present You," while also getting married and having children without missing out on anything~ Although these seven years of persistence have been very hard, the rewards have been immense, and my achievements after work have even surpassed those at work, changing my life path in a certain sense. (Sorry, boss (ㄒoㄒ)) Many people ask me, as a modern overtime worker who collapses at home after work, how to use after-work or spare time to develop hobbies? How to pick up what you want to do after having children? How to say goodbye to being a phone addict and make yourself read and gain some wisdom? Actually, I have many of these problems too, and I am also working on them. So let me share some of my little insights, hoping to help those with the same issues. If you have good methods, feel free to tell me, and we can improve together. What to do when you're too tired to move after work? Use fitness to overcome fatigue and sleepiness 90% of people ask the same question: commuting is already tiring, and when you get home, you just want to collapse into bed. You have no energy for extracurricular activities, let alone the mental and physical effort to achieve something in them. It seems like a vicious cycle that can't be broken. What should you do? Based on my actual experience, go to the gym in the morning, go to the gym, go to the gym. Won't that make you more tired? Just try it, really try it. Since I started working out in the morning, I've been energized all day, wanting to jump for joy. Observing the fitness girls around me, they used to be overtime workers, looking gloomy after a year of work, but after working out, they seem to be on their way to becoming internet celebrities. Their spirit and appearance have changed so much that they're full of energy anytime, anywhere! These people now post everything on their Moments, and I just want to block them. How to deal with procrastination and laziness? Start with the smallest tasks and do them quickly Facing a day of overwhelming workload and bumpy commutes, it's understandable that procrastination and laziness kick in. My method is to start with the smallest tasks and build a sense of accomplishment. For example, tell yourself: go take a shower right away, go wash your hands and change clothes, go eat. When small tasks are completed quickly, you feel a sense of achievement, which gives you more momentum and makes you want to tackle bigger tasks immediately. I used to procrastinate on showering until just before bed, but then I was too sleepy to do it, and it dragged on until two or three in the morning. Then I started practicing this method: as soon as I got home, I told myself to put down my bag and take a shower, eat, get the kids to bed, and then start reading, writing, or taking English classes. As long as I successfully showered upon arriving home, my sense of accomplishment would spike, and my evening productivity was excellent. Want to do everything but time is limited? Don't set goals too big; plan from small tasks (very important) Many people ask: I want to learn dancing after work, plus fitness, reading, writing, and English, but I really don't have that much time. What should I do? A big reason for achieving nothing after work is that goals are too big; you want to do everything, so you don't know what to do. You can try to separate these goals: exercise on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays; write on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays; and read all day on Sundays. Everyone is very tired after work, so it's crucial to reasonably arrange your desires and manage your actions. Life is torn apart by trivial matters? Make good use of fragmented time (very important) Use fragmented time to handle miscellaneous tasks. For example, I recharge my phone, send and receive emails, browse Taobao for shopping, chat with friends on WeChat, and order food for myself while in a taxi. These tasks should be very small and miscellaneous, not something like reading a book in fragmented time. Because fragments might be just a few minutes or 20 minutes; you just open a book and read two lines, and the bus comes, which constantly interrupts your reading mindset. If you can't finish a book for a long time, you'll get discouraged. Of course, if your commute is long, like a half-hour subway ride, you can use it for reading; otherwise, just use it to handle miscellaneous tasks. Too many things to remember? Make a to-do list every day A good memory is not as good as a bad pen. I have two lists: one for work tasks and one for personal tasks. The older I get, the more I believe this: the busier and more chaotic things are, the more you need to write them down in black and white. Keep these two lists in mind at all times, and completing them one by one is your daily sense of accomplishment. If some items are not completed, transfer them to the next day's list, constantly reminding yourself that these things are not done yet. I'm a sleep enthusiast? I can't stay up late like you No achievement is more important than health, and there's no comparison when it comes to sleep. I naturally sleep less and have plenty of energy, so I've always slept relatively little, but this can't be imitated; you have to follow your own body's condition. You can either go to bed early and wake up early, starting work, reading, or exercising in the morning, or go to bed late and wake up late; many people have better inspiration at night, and that's fine. As for the health effects of staying up late, it's up to each person to do what they can, based on their body and habits. But if you really love sleep and need 12 hours to wake up, then just sleep well and don't fight your body. No achievement is more important than health. Always feeling guilty about not being ambitious? Don't think about studying while playing, and don't think about playing while studying I am the biggest victim of this, and probably most people are too. When studying, I think I should relax a bit; when playing, I feel bad for being so unproductive, so I live with too much guilt. Day after day, even good days pass by in a hurry, and I can't calm down to enjoy a good meal or a cup of coffee. Now, my approach is to set aside 1-2 hours for writing every day, at least one hour for reading, and one day on the weekend for fun, whether it's reading, sleeping, or going out with friends. I set specific times for specific activities and don't think about anything else. This has greatly improved my efficiency, allowing me to truly immerse myself in each task, and my overall demeanor has changed. Always dawdling? Time just slips away Another reason for procrastination is that tasks are too complex, so you never start, and it drags on longer and longer. If your work isn't too tiring one day and you have energy for complex tasks after work, be sure to conserve your energy and start as soon as you get home. For example, read a profound book, write a long article, or watch an English movie. Instead of dawdling at home, chatting here and there, and by the time your energy is depleted, you can't do anything significant. Severe phone addiction? Being away from your phone for a little while won't cause the sky to fall I am a severe phone addict. In my husband's words, if I didn't look at my phone at night, I could read a whole book. I'm working on improving, like using the "小黑屋" (dark room) software when writing to avoid distractions. When reading, I don't look at my phone for an hour. See, the sky hasn't fallen. As long as the sound is on so my boss can reach me, it's fine... In fact, severe phone addicts often look at their phones not because they have important matters to discuss, but mostly because they're browsing around, swiping through apps, and spending money. How to manage time with children? Start with the smallest tasks to build a sense of accomplishment This is a problem for many mothers, including stay-at-home moms and working moms. As long as you have children and are with them, you can't do anything! What should you do? My method is to focus on accompanying the children when you're with them, and don't think about what you want to do. Remember, once they turn three and enter kindergarten, they'll have their own friends and crushes, and you'll become a second choice. So don't complain that children take up your time; accompany them well when it's time. When the children are asleep, or when they can play by themselves without needing you, or when grandparents or a nanny can help watch them for a while, seize the time to do something. For example, after the children go to bed around 8 PM, my personal life begins. Of course, for stay-at-home moms, taking care of children during the day is very tiring, so tiring that you want to sleep when they sleep. In my opinion, if you still want to do something in this situation, you must start with the smallest tasks, like reading five pages of a book, watching one episode of a TV series, or making a simple craft, to give yourself a sense of accomplishment first, and then gradually increase the amount according to your rhythm and energy. Although the tasks are small, accumulating them is better than doing nothing. If goals are too big and your body is tired, you'll feel exhausted, but if you can't finish, you'll feel bad. Seeing others progress every day while you're only circling around the children can lead to negative emotions. I also have a suggestion: many stay-at-home moms want to do something but don't know where to start. In my opinion, taking care of children every day is a great source of material. Many working moms don't get to see their children's daily growth. If you're willing to write it down, share it, and read books to reflect on each step of your child's growth, it's great content for both yourself and others. Give it a try. Quitting your job to become a freelancer? Does that give you more free time? NO Self-management of time and energy is extremely important for freelancers. Many people, once they rest, sleep until noon and wake up in the afternoon, and this cycle continues. When they were working, they thought that after quitting, they'd live every day energetically and post happy moments, but instead, they end up living in a daze, confusing day and night. Most of us have been used to having someone set our school or work schedules for decades, and we just follow them. Planning your free life like a job—what time to get up, what time to work, what time to eat, what time to play—is extremely important. Don't think that work is too bitter and quitting will be great. You have to believe that if you don't plan your time, most people's lives after quitting will become like haze, with the direction ahead becoming increasingly unclear. Self-managing workload, self-controlling time, and self-regulating emotions all depend on your own initiative. Life doesn't need to be a constant pep talk, and if you achieve nothing, you don't have to feel guilty. When I was young, I always thought life required effort. As I've grown older and seen many different people, I've come to realize that everyone has their own way of living; not everyone needs to be constantly tense and striving. You can be lazy or tense; it all depends on your current situation and whether you have other aspirations or ideas for your future. Watching TV and sleeping after work is also a fine way of life. But for me personally, maintaining an attitude of effort and progress, even if it's just on the surface, gives me some peace of mind in the face of a changing world. This might not sound inspiring, but it's the most authentic picture of life in all its diversity. The two hours after work determine the person you will become. Let's encourage each other. 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