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# "How Much Is Your Monthly Salary?" One Sentence Reveals Your Emotional Intelligence

> Many experts say that as you age in your career, when professional skills are similar, the one with higher emotional intelligence goes further. While it's hard to define high EQ, low EQ has clear signs. This article lists common low-EQ behaviors, such as poor conversation skills, complaining, and difficulty making friends, and contrasts them with traits of high-EQ individuals.

Many experts say that "when you reach a certain age in your career, and everyone's professional skills are about the same, the one with higher emotional intelligence can go further." It's hard to define what exactly constitutes high EQ; it can only be felt. However, low EQ has some clear manifestations. Take a look at the following low-EQ "bad conversation" situations and see if any apply to you. Finally, you'll understand why you haven't been promoted or gotten a raise all these years.

First, let's talk about the common characteristics of people with low EQ:
**1.** They easily and unconsciously hurt others' feelings in speech and actions.
**2.** They are either overly sensitive to external reactions, easily feeling hurt by others, so you have to be careful when talking to them; or they are very insensitive to others' feedback.
**3.** They radiate negative emotions like blame-shifting, complaining, and despair; being with them often makes your mood worse.
**4.** In close relationships, they tend to show excessive dependence.
**5.** They lack awareness of the huge difference between "intent and result," thinking that good intentions should always receive positive feedback.
**6.** Their social circle is small and homogeneous.
**7.** They like to criticize and belittle others.

After reading the above, how many do you think apply to you? Actually, low EQ specifically manifests as "not knowing how to chat," being prone to complaining and negative emotions, having difficulty making new friends at work, being "willful" in interactions and decisions, and being unable to hide their feelings.

**1. EQ Not in Service**
When chatting with a new colleague, immediately asking about their salary, age, marital status, or whether they have a partner are all signs of low EQ.

**Meaningless Preliminaries**
When asking a colleague for help, not knowing how to bring it up, you test the waters on QQ for a long time—chatting about gossip, life, your own work, etc.—and only after much preamble do you finally ask for help. This is also a sign of low EQ. First, you should check if the person is busy. When asking for a favor, instead of beating around the bush, it's better to directly state what you need, to avoid confusing the other person.

**Eager to Give Advice Instead of Listening**
Often in the workplace, someone might share their difficulties with you, such as: "I've hit a bottleneck in my career development. Should I go abroad for further study, or choose another big platform to challenge myself?" In such cases, we often help analyze and offer advice from a friend's perspective. But in this situation, it's better to be a listener rather than someone who makes plans for them. Otherwise, if problems arise later, they might blame your advice for their mistakes.

**2. Complaining and Leaking Negative Emotions**
Such people often complain about working overtime, having the most workload, low salary, being excluded in colleague relationships, or being deliberately targeted by leaders. In short, everything becomes a source of complaint. Complaining isn't scary, but what's scary is that you do a lot of work but aren't recognized by leaders or colleagues, which blocks your career advancement. So be sure to curb negative emotions in the workplace.

**3. Difficulty Making New Friends at Work**
Actually, it's not easy to make friends in the workplace because of interests and competition. But some people indeed fail to seize opportunities to become friends with others when they should, remaining mere "nodding acquaintances."

After dealing with colleagues from other departments, you become familiar with them—greeting each other, chatting when free, sharing snacks—these are common. But some people, even though they frequently interact with administrative, HR, procurement, or finance staff, act like it's the first time every time they meet. Why not use each interaction to bring each other closer and make a new workplace friend?

You regret not having read enough when you need knowledge, and the same goes for connections. Sometimes you need help at work, so it's still necessary to build some workplace relationships.

**4. My Decisions Are Always Willful**
Have you ever been willful at work? For example, if a leader promotes a colleague of the same level but not you, do you threaten to resign? Or if a client makes an unreasonable request, do you vent sarcastically on your Moments without a second thought?

In the workplace, everyone is there to make money and pursue interests. Never do anything that harms your professional image and reputation for your own small gains. The circle is small; don't lose more than you gain.

**5. Can't Hide Your Feelings**
Have you seen people who, every time a leader assigns them a task, frown and complain, listing reasons like "I've never done this before, no experience," "Too busy, no time," "Too many projects, not enough energy," and so on, but in the end, they still can't resist the leader and reluctantly take the job?

Not being able to hide your feelings often gives an immature impression. No matter how much you dislike a colleague, don't show your disgust or delay; no matter how much you don't want to do a task, since the leader has given the order and there's no room for negotiation, don't keep lowering your "impression score" in front of leaders and colleagues.

Having said so much about low EQ, let me share some traits of high-EQ people:
**1.** They are good at considering others' feelings in speech and actions.
**2.** They have a strong ability to interpret others' emotions and intentions.
**3.** They radiate positive energy; being with them makes you feel comfortable, relaxed, happy, and enthusiastic.
**4.** They are good at maintaining close relationships while also maintaining independence and self.
**5.** They deeply understand the huge difference between "intent and result," actively pay attention to and obtain feedback from others, and adjust accordingly.
**6.** They have a wide social circle and can accommodate various types of people.
**7.** They are good at encouraging and praising others.

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